What is happening to our education system?
I think I have an answer to that question, and it would benefit at all if finally we become conscious of it. My son does excellent in class, most people would think that since I have not been affected by it, I should not be concern about our education system, but we need to start looking at EVERY problem as OURS! And start taking action, and provide solutions….not just criticism.

After being a mother of 2 and for 7 years, and being part of my son’s education, I have asked some questions regarding the future of our society. After a close look at what we consider “good” education system in our country, and what the whole world has, a lot of doubts and fears have come to me.

I had a career and decided to form a family, so the big question arrived, but I decided that the best approach was to leave my career behind and give my whole attention to my kids. Now I realize that my intuition was right on track. Because educators with what they have cannot do it on their own.

I started teaching my son pre-kindergarten when my baby girl was born, I decided I would stay with both of them for one year, while he would enter school. I would teach him, and have regular classes, where I though him, everything I thought was relevant to his new school year. Time when on and I am still with them, full time with my toddler, and as a supportive parent to my first grader.

Well, obviously he has been more advanced, and was number one in his class that first school year. He already knew how to read, knew all the numbers, science; geography….It was an easy year! He just had to worry about the social aspect of it. And now that he is on first grade. Even better….He is in the top of his class.
I have realized that my sacrifice paid off, at least so he passes his required classes. But, when I see around, I do not see THAT!
Even though he is in an “A” school, blue ribbon, charter, etc, school, the majority of his classmates, are NOT at his level. And worst if I start looking at Miami’s kids, Florida’s, USA’s kids in general. I started seeing that SOCIETY as a whole is getting behind in social-human development!

I started by instructing myself to give my son the best education and foundation, (it was not my original career) I found books about education, child psychology, teaching strategies, talked to my mother who is a teacher, and made an independent career out of that opportunity. I found the beautiful ways to provide the best to our kids in a loving and fun matter.

One of the main points I have found, where most of the strategies (including Finland’s system-best in the world) agree is that “The theory is that education is better when children are allowed to play until they are eager to learn at age 7.” (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Education_in_Finland) YES! I can see it in their eyes! When I play with my daughter with the ABC! Or read books…I see sparks! They want to know about volcanoes, science, stars, etc!
But, after talking to my son, and people from his school, that is JUST NOT happening in their schools. No, they are supposed to stay in their seats for 2 hours “listening” to teachers, then they have to go to cafeteria eat, not talk, seat in first position, and go back to class until they have…if the weather allows…recess. Mh! What is wrong with this picture, how in the world can you do that to 6, 7, year olds? Even would not get the attention of teenagers.

A good foundation is the key. But we are not doing that, yes it has to come from both, parents and teacher. If we as a society require hard working hours to everyone, the parents are existed or they are working. As a result, in the house, the parents DO NOT have the time to even read a book to their kids, and at their school, the teachers have SOOOOOO many students, that they cannot stand them talking, it becomes a nightmare. It all is transmitted to our kids!

I went to my son’s cafeteria several times, and felt so bad…the poor social beings where trying to have a conversation to their classmates, because they are NOT allowed to do so in class, because it disrupts the class. In addition, when they come to the cafeteria, they are NOT allowed EITHER! Yes, it becomes a zoo! But how can they balance themselves back! Have we forgotten that we were kids also!

We are not letting our kids explore. The” good” students”, at least the well behaved students, have been silenced with stickers, and super starts, and daily rewards that just provide a short, not rewarding satisfaction or learning experience. And the “bad” ones, sad faces, sticker, note homes, and “DONOT do” scream. But we (parents and educators) are not taking the time to provide positive behavior attitudes, and self-reflection approach.

Yes, most kids are able to learn since they are 2 year olds (my two year old already knows her ABC, numbers, shapes) but they need to learn it at their own rate, and in a “playful” not authoritarian like manner! We should learn from the successful systems, Montessori, Finland’s, etc. Most agree with let them be kids! Treat them with respect, they are all different characters, they all cannot learn the same! How can we make a “slow” readers feel bad in front of their class! What is the future of that poor being when he continues, if he already is classified as a “bad” student? He never gets stickers, or happy face, “he will never be”.

Our capitalistic approach shall not be translated nor implemented in school. If you study and pass a test you will get a toy!? Instead, of learning is fun; it would benefit us all, and help develop our human kind. Learn and you will have fun! Look how fun school is! You discover!

We are a society, , if you help your partner in school, you fell a gratification, because we are a community. We all work together, focusing on our individual strengths. Taking each day at a time, enjoying what we do, and discovering what each of us like and does not like. At the end, they could sincerely find what they would love to do in their future, and have a happy fulfilling input in our society.

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Why Finland is First in Education: Learn Why Students in Finland are Ranked So High

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Today I had one of those DO NOT like encounters with one of my neighbors.

My beautiful Dog "Maui" ran around , like he sometime does....and obviously I did not ran after him, because I also have to watch out for my two year old...anyways, he always comes back...

This time I went to the street to call him, and THIS lady was shouting to me that "you can not let him go out with/o his leash, that a car will run him...."

well, thank you for your concern in my life....but I do not need that...not with that attitude.

Why do we feel we need to control some ones's life....is that being a good neighbor, or a control freak maniac. If she would actually care, it wouldn have been a different conversation. Unfortunately, we do not known anything about our neighbor's life. I have notice that we are so focus in our OWN life that we forget other's have a life too. The person on the counter, the mail lady, the government employees...yes they are not ROBOTS, COMPUTERS, that have feelings and life to think about.

Please! lets love a little more, and we will be able to remove all those angers we keep inside. I bet the lady has no one that pays attention to her. I was doing happy bubbles with my daughter, and after the incident, I was disturbed by the woman reactions. My thought went to her.

I cannot imagine this Lady's parenting, if she has kids. Everything starts in the foundation, our family, Most of psychological problems are associated with our parents reactions, when we where kids, if we love, they will love. If we criticize , they will criticize....

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What a beautiful love is the one we feel for our kids.

Each day grows bigger. Look in to their eyes, and you can see everything.....a sparkle that represents and shows God's beauty. How perfect....

Spending time with them is a learning experience...full of emotions, and new experiences. Each of their success, is a reminder that our work has been done. Their happiness is my paycheck, and is priceless.

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Definitely we need love to do what we do.....at the beginning I felt the will to just forget about my job and decided to stay home. After a lot of research I knew that was the best option for my family. But I did not realize what it was going to do to my self-esteem, I thought that I would be here for only two years and that I would have been ready to go back to my job. MH! then the economy changed my plans.
I have to stay home....It has become impossible, to find a job in my field.
I believe that everything comes for a reason. Yes, I was not the happiest person at my job, it did not fulfill me, but I was following my career, I was a working woman(to society someone).
While staying home, that voice(most people's actually) is in me..what about my career? what will happen when the kids go back to school? what have I done with me? all that studying and money for nothing? My husband is struggling for money? my son needs new shoes?
But at the same time, once I play and teach my kids, I forget about it.
Watching them so grounded!
It is definitely a job that pays with something more! I cannot describe it/.... It is an everyday experience. Each moment is fulfill!, Being with them awakes me.
Sometimes when I was working..days will seem like a dream, blurry times at my office, projects......next...project....
But, With my kids, it is a never ending excitement. I have Awaked to discover new meaning in life.
My son's is a happy kid, he does outstanding at school, anf loves what he does. My daughter, she is a little lady, learns sooooooo fast, happy, .......I love my family......
Definitely, both ways, stay-home and working moms, have their pros and cons. It is up to us to find what makes us happy.....It may be a period, or a stage.
But, the importance is to find love in what we do.

Some days just go sooooooooooooooooo fast.....I feel I am going in a fast boat and cannot get off....

What will happend if I pay attention, and try very hard to stop myself..I realize I really do not have to go so fast...there is a way to slow down. But the trick is in realizing what it is happening. If my son gets late to school (one day) will not be a major problem, though getting my adrenaline going will be.......

A blurry time could become a life time experince. Today, I had a great conversation with my 7 year old son, thanks to a speedy-disturbed person. But my mornind did not started as well as it sounds, or so I thought, it looked better after I was able to get myself back on track the situation change completetly.

Everything started as one of those fast moving morning..then....we starting talking about "the crazy people on the streets" yes....it is funny...but we started observing the morning maddness. I started to wake-up of the fast track when someone (the speedy-disturbed person) almost run us down with his car, because he was trying to get his coffee and obviously he was on the cell phone, driving....and trying to look for a parking space, and I guess late for work.......AH!!!!!!!!

When I saw that! ....I first wanted to .....I did not like the guy at that moment.....no love...no no no no.....but...I had a BIGGGGGGGGG breath in....breath out......and realized, that it will become a learning experience....oh..yes.....it gave us a time to learn and talk to my kids.

Sometimes we transmit that to our kids, "move" "fast" "to the car" , and I have seen it, it could become crazy, if backback, lunch box, kids,keys, purse, lights, all the things we need to take with us in the morning are not ready. And I cannot believe the working moms and dads....at least I could come back to the house, and have no schedule...

Well the only thing I could say is, and it works for me, try your best to bring a happy, thought, and everything will start to look cleaner, and brighter. LOVE, LOVE LOVE....to my neighboor, to my kids, to the GUY in the car, to the angry lady on the register, to the people driving, to my kids. Awaking at that moment, and trying to transmit that moment to my kids in a better way.

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I just read an article in the Miami Herald about teen violence....main topic who's fault is it? MH??????? ALL OF US.

We have to stop with blaming someone else. and start acting. We do not even have the energy or the time to care about our neighbors.

We have to start reconnecting with our family, friends and society.

Everything starts at.....yes..the beginning. In the case of us humans, when conception takes place. If we start by LOVINGGGGGGGGGGG that Being that WE are helping to create! everything will be fine.
The miracle of life, and the first part of the process! that embryo! mh!
give it time! yes...he/she is there starting that BEAUTIFUL adventure! building fingers, nails, hair...mh! be aware of each moment, each day....connecting at those moments.....right there that being is part of US! then the baby.....hard times! to re-adjust. But if we love what is happening! we will be aware, and will be able to experience each moment!. Now is mostly, the parents or caregiver.....either way if they provide love.....that is the main ingredient at this moment.....
After this, all of us takes part in the life of this beautiful being! each encounter on the market, on the mall, on the park...etc will be recorded and will mold a personality. I can not forget those "people" that if a kids is screaming to his mom.....they look as if...they have never seen this! It will bother them! or the mother that when the toddler starts screaming gets out of place and screams back, or the or the mother that if the kid starts screaming lets him do it without understanding the real reason for that action. Three examples of lack of loving understanding on the grownups side.
We need to REMEMBER that we already went through that experience...we could understand them....but Can the little kids understand us? MH? All these experiences are there to learn, and to mold our kids future personalities and well being.
Please! lest be aware when we see a kid............we will be a part in their growing experience, and is up to us to be good, loving humans.

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